tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-57186882505607516.post5016247412178151700..comments2023-06-12T03:54:53.067-07:00Comments on One Foot in Front of the Other: When Forgiveness Feels Like Selling OutBesshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08211150594109190701noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-57186882505607516.post-56866045613892764532016-03-26T02:19:09.822-07:002016-03-26T02:19:09.822-07:00Thanks, TW. I've been missing you guys, too.Thanks, TW. I've been missing you guys, too.Besshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08211150594109190701noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-57186882505607516.post-50519272116222474862016-03-24T05:33:24.468-07:002016-03-24T05:33:24.468-07:00Yk, forgiveness was never an issue, never even pin...Yk, forgiveness was never an issue, never even pinged my radar-until I found the ACs on line. I was quite shocked actually about all the "forgiveness" debating. Why didn't I even think of it as necessary-or even an issue? I thought about that long and hard-I never struggled with forgiveness. It was simply a non-issue. Would I forgive a snake for being a snake? A bear for being a bear? Of course not: That's who and what they are.<br />And Ohhh, the Forgiveness Police just shake their fingers at me-Imma baaad girl! (And I love it heh heh!) It's like being stuck in a nightmare of bumper to bumper barely crawling traffic behind some "collector" of bobble-heads, many of whom have taken up permanent residence on the shelf behind the back seat of their car. "You forgive for yourself!" Well, myself doesn't require forgiveness. "If you don't forgive you'll be an angry, bitter person!" Really? What a paucity of human responses your pea brain has conjured up: This is the same either/or world view of the perpetrators. Get a flea collar.<br />Good to see you, Bess. You're missed when you're not around. :)<br />TWTundra Womanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12262066568878267648noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-57186882505607516.post-83430944855959778912016-03-23T14:27:13.810-07:002016-03-23T14:27:13.810-07:00Man, I love Anna V.'s blog. After reading back...Man, I love Anna V.'s blog. After reading back through my blog today, I can see the issue of forgiveness comes up a lot - I go through cycles over and over thoughts about what it means, why I can't. I really want to just break that and be done, but I must not be ready for that yet.Besshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08211150594109190701noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-57186882505607516.post-60565770182574145632016-03-23T13:59:10.439-07:002016-03-23T13:59:10.439-07:00Remember the post I stole from you that was from A...Remember the post I stole from you that was from Anna V's blog? I don't think she advocates forgiveness for forgiveness sake. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-57186882505607516.post-66675353832413259342016-03-23T08:54:31.029-07:002016-03-23T08:54:31.029-07:00It's true that my NM has never asked for forgi...It's true that my NM has never asked for forgiveness in a genuine way. I have spent so much time thinking I should forgive for my own sake, because I thought that was so fucking important to healing, but it feels much too complicit in her lies to allow it all to "go away".Besshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08211150594109190701noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-57186882505607516.post-31809367950466080582016-03-23T06:02:12.086-07:002016-03-23T06:02:12.086-07:00IMO forgiveness has to be EARNED and even then it&...IMO forgiveness has to be EARNED and even then it's up to the forgiver whether or not to bestow that gift on their abuser.<br />This is really a non-issue because no genuine narc would ever make the slightest effort to seek forgiveness.mulderfanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07500535934417551223noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-57186882505607516.post-48447790699810637222016-03-22T15:58:44.961-07:002016-03-22T15:58:44.961-07:00Testify!Testify!Besshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08211150594109190701noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-57186882505607516.post-89547277066217464042016-03-22T15:18:11.082-07:002016-03-22T15:18:11.082-07:00Yeah I used to tell people if they can live with m...Yeah I used to tell people if they can live with my mother live with her and THENthey can tell me about forgiving that psychopathic slut. Can I call her a slut? THAT SLUT! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-57186882505607516.post-46936530691583732202016-03-22T15:15:51.129-07:002016-03-22T15:15:51.129-07:00I am now an advocate of hiring movers to get away ...I am now an advocate of hiring movers to get away from them and slipping them an extra twenty to drop something on their foot. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com