Tuesday, August 7, 2012
That Sick, Sinking Feeling
The mother just tried to call me yesterday, right at 5 p.m., an odd time for her to try to call. She left a voice mail. The minute my phone started playing Crazy Train, I realized it was her and my stomach dropped. I haven't listened to the voice mail, and I really want to just delete it, but I know I'll have to see her at my niece's christening in less than a month, and I wonder if I should listen just to get an idea of what I'm in for. Cuz I know, it'll be all about mother. She'll probably be bawling at the christening, make a big fucking scene, and make the whole thing less about my precious niece. Fuck. Fuck. I don't want to be the reason for the drama there. I love my sis & her family. I'm definitely going to the christening; this is really important to them. Maybe I call my sister & ask her what her opinion is on this? I know that my sister is familiar with mother's tactics and that mother has pulled them on her. But sis is alot more straightforward and stronger when it comes down to the bullshit. Fuck. What to do? How to handle?
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We all have to change our perspective. Instead of looking at her call as an imposition and potential mind fuck. Think of it as an exciting new opportunity to reduce her to a whimpering vermin.
ReplyDeleteWhen they do it to us it's called mirroring.
Start saying exactly what you are usually thinking.
Do you think she ever holds anything back from you?
I'd call Sis and run it by her. After all, the Christening is her and her family's "event." And Sis seems to have a good handle on the situation and likely will tell "mother" to calm her ass down at the Christening or she'll be escorted OUT of the venue.
ReplyDeleteI don't think anything will be accomplished by listening to the "Crazy Train" message-likely your "mother" will morph through all kinds of internal changes that are based on the same themes: "Woe is MEEEE! You owe MEEE" rinse and repeat.
There's just not enough Prilosec to deal with these people. 5PM is likely time for dinner around your house so she figured she'd get a "two-fer": Your attention and a(nother) ruined meal.
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